Mind of Mine !

In the memory of a cherish relationship that got to its abrupt end without a goodbye.

Recently I was told that one can never hold on to something that is obviously falling apart.And that you or your karma,is not at all the reason for that relationship to end.Sometimes it is better to let go and be free,rather than clinging tightly to people and trying hard to keep them together.They also tell that it’s better to not take these relationship issues to the head and keep on thinking about it.But I fail in following this piece of vital advice whenever I’m in the middle of a relationship crisis.

Every relationship has its ups and downs.The ones that are strong enough always strive and survive.But those which are feeble always crumble to its oblivion.They are long forgotten along with their once treasured memories.I have always wondered how people get themselves free so easily from all that emotional attachments over some silly mishaps.It is disheartening and sad to see ‘once-best friends’,glancing at each other like strangers.

It’s human nature and tendency to commit mistakes.People involving in relationships must be definitely knowing about the other person’s situations and problems.So when a person do something wrong,they must be the one to understand from their shoes,instead of criticizing them.Even though if the person commits a grave and an unforgivable mistake,the friend must be crazy enough to forgive the other because that’s what determines their bonding and affection towards each other.

It is my tendency to think in a way that my karma takes a toll on my social and personal life.So whenever something goes wrong with my peer relationship (even though I’m not the cause for any trouble),I start to think of all the wrongs that I’ve committed and start to feel guilty.And I also believe that all relationships should end the way it started (ie) in a mutual way with a goodbye.I once didn’t have the chance to say my goodbyes to a treasured and cherished relationship.And I regret it till date.So I always take initiative and try mending relationships which are in the verge of breaking off…So that they don’t regret it one day like I do.

Call me old-fashioned,but I believe that people do not meet and get into a relationship without a reason.Again I may be wrong,but these are all my views and perspectives.I’m so sorry if I’ve hurt people who don’t agree with me.

Legends tell that people are bonded over lifetimes…It’s a sin to break those sacred bonds over meaningless things !

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No more “EXPECTATIONS” !

There was a time when life was easy,

with no ups and downs on its way !

Things were better as they were,

with no dreamy surmise then and now.

Words were true and acts were real,

with no stupid reckoning protruding in between !

Now this may look like ‘golden days’ – once cherished but

now with a little pale off its gleam.

This “past time” can turn about – the clock can be reversed,

if no firsthand expectations are yet ready to be revealed !!

-Dailylife330

 

The Versatile Blogger Award !!

Hello folks,I have been nominated by the lovely and sweet grevisangel73 for this blogger award and it’s quite an honor for me.Firstly I have to apologize for the delay in responding to the nomination.Next,I’m super excited and super happy in participating among the nominations ! Please do check out my nominator’s blog site as it is so interesting and worth for a read.

Rules :

1. You have to thank the person who nominated you for this award and provide a link to their blog.
2. Link the nominees and inform them about their nomination.
3. Nominate at least 15 bloggers of your choice
4. Share 7 facts about yourself.

Well,I’m kind of a secretive person but I guess rules are rules,so I’ll share a few facts about me and my life.I hope it’s worth your read !

• I have a thing for butterflies..Whenever I see a butterfly on my way,I consider it to be a good vibe for me.I’m not all superstitious,but I have my own beliefs.
• Every weekend,it is customary for me to have a night ride.The wind in the hair,cold breeze,twinkling stars,calm surrounding really gets me.It allows me to clear my thoughts.
• I’m an avid reader.I’m mostly into young adult fiction,mystery,tragedy,romance and gothic fiction novels.
• Music really takes my mind off whenever I’m on the edge.
• I really value friendship over relationship.It has been my strongest forte at all times.
• I always have the habit of saying “yes” to everyone for everything (in a good sense).I feel that when a person has come to me for something with the belief that I’ll help them,if I say ‘no’ then it equals to breaking of all hope they had on me.
• Whenever I get a little low,I always turn to F.R.I.E.N.D.S ,the series never fails to cheer me up and I’m a ardent fan of it.

Hope I didn’t bore you people ! Now here are my nominees for this award…

1. The Sporadic Scribbler
2. crystalamayy
3. Writing Natural
4. muffled voice..!
5. doodlessworld
6. youronlinepal
7. ODD ball
8. Musings of a 20 Something Mom
9. aishwaryasivakumar
10. Thriti’s Blog
11. harshuweb
12. The Shimmer Within Her
13. namrataspeaks
14. Minion Head with a human brain
15. Hummings

All of the above mentioned blogs are unique in their own way and inspire me in day to day life.Their works stand out and never fails to impress.These people always kind of set the bar high everytime and produce great pieces.It’s my pleasure to nominate the mentioned fellow bloggers.Please do check their blogs and posts,I highly recommend it.

Nominees…if you choose not to participate,then you don’t have to participate (because it can be time consuming), and if you enjoyed this post please don’t forget to like, follow, share and comment.

Have a happy day !!

 

Mirage…

As a small fish in uncharted waters she struggled,

Not knowing that the very struggle will harden her troubles and mold her.

‘Small fish’,they said…and nabbed her of all the trust and faith

That she once had on her fellow fishes-how foolish of me,she thought.

Wanting to change her for better companions…the wild possibilities outgrew her,

Finally producing what she really wasn’t…a pleaser and a loser !

Once known for skills and no-objection,always an easy prey for big fishes to pry on.

And so the word spread and the small fish regretted its transformation…

The firstly abandoning fishes were the ones she thought will stay by her side during difficulties !

Time answered all confusions of the small fish with instances from near future,

That her purpose among her present group was fulfilled and no longer required

Leaving the small fish all alone once again !!

“Is this life ?”,shouted the frustrated fish towards the boundless ocean,

“This is just the mirage of what life will be !”,boomed back ocean with lively lessons.

-Dailylife330

 

Hello all,this is my first time in writing poetry.So please bear with me and help me improve with my poetry skills.Hope you all enjoy it (and I hope I conveyed what exactly I had in my mind from my inspiration !!)…Fingers crossed and waiting for your valuable feedbacks 🙂

 

BROKEN FRIENDSHIP…

                        Hello everyone ! First,I want to apologize for not being active for the past two months.I have been occupied with a lot of troubling thoughts lately.Next,I want to thank all of you for being such a comfort during my unsettled times.I managed my days with the help of all your inspiring and really touching posts,which is the only thing that kept me sane.Please bear with my melancholic tune of the day !!

Recently,I’ve been wondering about how all people have a “support system” and “got your back”kind of pals in their life.And I have been reflecting how these people manage to stay in the same level throughout their lives.Friendship is a very beautiful and a ‘delicate’ way of being related to one another.It can either bloom or wither in a matter of second.But,when a friendship that has lasted for almost a decade becomes frail and lose touch,what happens to the ‘once-friends’ ? How do they cope up with the loss of a friend ?

The worst scenario is that-when a person’s “long lasting friendship” suddenly halts and misunderstanding builds up,then nothing worse can happen than ‘once two close friends’ being ‘just friends’. It’s really sad to see such a pleasing bond turn into something that’s not.And some times these pals don’t express the “lately built up tension” and ease it up with their friends.

This is where jealousy steps in and ruins the left out bond betwixt the two.When one of them find support and comfort in her outer circle,the other becomes envious and the ugly cold war begins.So,as you can see,what was believed to be a beautiful relationship turned sour.All this,because one of them didn’t find it in themselves to let go of their ego and speak up…because they didn’t think that they owe it to their bond to mend it…because they didn’t think that they owe it to themselves.

What will be the state of either of these people when they meet years later in their lives…will they even share a smile (or) just turn away.Just think ! I’m not categorizing all friendships to be stereotyped in this same way.I’m just pointing out some bonds-which were thicker than blood once ! I’m so sorry if I’ve hurt anyone of you through my views…these are merely my perspectives.

                       Remember,every ‘good friend’ was once a ‘stranger’. Don’t make them into ‘STRANGERS WITH MEMORIES’ !!

 

Mystery Blogger Award !!

This award was created by Okoto Enigma

Hi people…I super excited about this award because it’s my first award in my blogging history.I was nominated by the lovely Rei ,So thank you so much for that and please make sure to check her blog.

Rules:

– Put the award logo/image on your blog
– List the rules
– Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog
– Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
– Tell your readers 3 things about yourself and answer questions from your nominator.
– You can nominate up to 20 people
– (optional) Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
– Ask your nominees and five questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question
– Share a link to your best post(s)

Three things about myself:

#. I’m a night person.

#. I have hard time trusting people as my trust gets easily broken so often by people I care.

#. I always stop myself from attaching to someone so close,to avoid myself from getting hurt.

Questions from my nominee:

1.What is your Christmas tradition?                                      

Basically I’m not a Christian,so that explains that I don’t have any traditions being followed on Christmas.Anyway,I enjoy helping and decorating Christmas tree at my friend’s place.  

2.A bad habit, you wish you could stop?                              

I have this habit of checking my phone often,even though I have no notifications in my phone.This is one habit which I’m fighting against.

3.What is your current favorite song?                                  

I’m addicted to “I don’t wanna live forever”by Zayn and Taylor Swift from “Fifty Shades Darker”. 

4.Your worst pet peeves?

One of my biggest pet peeves is how people fancy chokers.

5.Are you tea or a coffee person?

My day never ends without a cup of hot steaming coffee,so I guess that makes me a “Coffee Person”.

Questions for my nominees:

• What would you want the most in the beginning of the upcoming New Year?
• Are you a night or a day person?
• What is your favorite song of all time?
• If you have an hour left to convey your final goodbyes,whom would you call first?
• What is that one place,where you would wish to go within your time of life?

I nominate:

• Boundless Blessings by Kamal
  
• Vivek Vatsal1
• Inner Ramblings Boulevard:
• Belle Papillon 24/7
• Ajay Vyas
• Sadie Maddix
• maureenrose7
• AmyRose🌹

As for my best posts, I don’t know really. Why don’t you let me know which of my posts you liked the most?

Have a prosperous New Year folks !! Let this new beginning bring happiness to all of you !

                                                           

Till DEATH do us apart…

We all,are familiar with the phrase “Till death do us apart !”…It’s most likely to be heard in weddings.Well,I’ve been thinking,does this phrase necessarily have to mean the ‘to be wedded bride and groom’ ?? I don’t think so.So here’s a small spoiler alert regarding this post…It is not at all a ROMANTIC (or) a HAPPILY EVER AFTER sort of post,it’s about death.Now,many of you might have concluded me for a melancholic person,which I am not.Today,one of my college senior deceased suddenly.It was quite a shock for most of us.She was one of the most vibrant person I’ve ever met in my life.

That’s when I realized the value people give to the living and the dead.That’s when I realized that,life is too uncertain and unpredictable.In reaching fame and affluence,we never realize that all these things are temporary…and anytime they can be taken away form us (ie) we can be taken away from them,that’s the irony of it.When I was thinking about the phrase,I was wondering “Maybe the phrase meant the body and the soul of the person !!…That body is a mere cocoon for the soul to finally fly away,once it’s ready.Like a butterfly growing stronger,day by day in its shell,the soul too might be preparing itself to redeem itself one day and be free.

I know that it’s a bit difficult to perceive the death of a person as a ‘Parting of soul to a better place’,especially the death of our dear ones.But,when it is seen in this way,it’ll be as a means to honor the deceased and celebrate their life.Thus the phrase might have also meant that,”Till the day the soul leaves the body,the body promises to aid the soul in all ways possible”. My new way of understanding this phrase may be a little unacceptable,especially since the term is closely associated with marriage and happiness.

But,people have to understand that it’s the power of words,that they can mean differently in different situations.Alas,this is how they meant to me today evening.I hope her soul rest in peace and will pray for her folks to find solace in the time being.Once again,It’s my perspective on experiences,that I had in my life and I’m so sorry if I’ve hurt any of you (or) against any of your views.

                        People don’t leave us,just because they’ve found a better place to reside….it’s because they are confident that we can move on in life without them,spreading their ‘missing smile and comforting hope’ as we go on !!

 

Sense of being FREE !

 

What does “Being and feeling FREE mean ? “…I’ve been have having this question,unanswered for a very long time.In day to day life,we see and meet new people who perfectly finish their given task,as well as have time for fun,even in between those pressure filled situations.Does that mean people who handle stressful situation well are all ‘feeling free’ all the time ?

In the game of running behind success and getting hold of recognition,people seem to be happy and enjoy their every moment in life.Then,does that mean they are all feeling “free” by doing whatever they wish and whatever pleases them ? Well…it always stays as a hypothetical question for which each people have different answers.In my opinion,I have a different perspective of what ‘BEING AND FEELING FREE’ mean to me.Being free doesn’t always have to be loosening up of reins in one’s life (or) fulfilling responsibilities thereby striking off a commitment from the list.

Doing our job without any flaws and finishing them perfectly always makes us feel “free” at that moment….till the next task is assigned to us.Doing ‘what pleases us and what provides us eternal happiness’ can surely make us “boss of our own”. But some accomplishments makes us feel good only when they are showcased to others (ie) to prove ourselves to others,and when this happens,the accomplishment loses its significance and once again becomes a “latent task”. When we decide to loosen our reins and be “free”,people will start taking control of our life and they’ll start taking decisions for us.When we do something just to strike off the list,then that too becomes a burden (on seeing the rest of the list) upon us rather than freeing us.

Now you may all be wondering “THEN WHAT REALLY IS,TO FEEL FREE ?” .Well…that is all my confusion is about.But even though I have these sort of questions and have hundreds of different replies,I always believe that…..”People can really feel FREE when they have a “clear conscience (or) peace of mind”. Having a positive mental health always aids in making oneself to feel calm and composed,thereby to really enjoy the “free”feeling.Positive mental health refers to the balance that one has between themselves and the surrounding environment.When this balance gets disrupted,that’s when people feel suffocated and confusions begin to cloud their judgements.When we have our minds sane and sound,we can always feel and be FREE,even when facing the unendurable and demanding situations of all.A calm mind can always ensure promising outcome,which cannot even be thought of during a ‘fight (or) flight situation’. Such a decision can inevitably in return bring a peace of mind to that person.The serenity of one’s mind has the power to alter the entire existing scenario and lighten up the atmosphere”.

And as always,all these views are from my perspectives and if I have hurt any one of you,I’m truly sorry.Hope you all enlighten me with your definition of ‘what being free’ means !!

To conclude with a beautiful quote…”A BLISSFUL MIND ALWAYS OPEN DOORS TO A HAPPY AND FREE LIFE !!”. Best wishes in finding your own sense of being FREE ! 🙂

 

Time for a “TIME OUT” !!

For a very long time I’ve been having this unanswered question…”What causes this much STRESS in today’s youngsters ??”. Well,they are seem to be the the ones with much stress levels than adults,who have concerns regarding family,work place and other grown up issues.I’ve been doing some reading regarding this and I was very surprised to know many UNEXPECTED FACTORS that can cause stress in this generation kids.In earlier days,people had many other diversions that distracted them from a stressful situation.But in today’s scenario,these diversions are the main factors that hike stress levels in youngsters.

For instance,when people had an ‘under pressure’ situation,they had the privilege to play across the meadows and loiter with fellow buds and have fun.But nowadays,say education (or) sports,there’s tough competition in all known fields.This sometimes spoil beautiful friendships (or) doesn’t even give a chance to develop a new ones.Now a question popped out of me…”What do people have in the end,other than achieved goals (which means nothing without folks to be around you and cheer) and uncountable rivals who are ready to stab behind your back (if they get a chance) ??”. Only people who have experienced such heights can answer this question !

The only feeling that cannot be expressed and identified that easily is knowing that one is ‘stressed out’. It can make a person perform highest of his/her abilities (or) it can completely shut one’s entire system and make them feel like a vegetable.”Unreasonable frustration,irritation about something unrelated,feeling lonely and tired always,quick losing of temper” can all indicate that the person is stressed out to a greater extent.Being stressed can affect both the victim as well as the people around the victim (ie) his/her ‘s family and friends.

Right from the age kids begin to take their first step,the kid goes through an unending ride with many twists and turns that makes the kid ‘tired of the ride’. This planning,for a secured future also creates failures,heart breaks for the kid when something unpleasant happens during that process….In many cases,the main reason for stress is “peer pressure” itself.It is essential to have healthy competition between friends as it enhances the performances of both the kids,instead of creating sense of unrest among them.

Some times these stress factors can also cause physical and psychological effects on the youngster (ie) depression,low blood pressure,migraines and other health hazards on the victims.Thus along with every sip of success,the person will be in a condition to take a handful of pills to continue succeeding.If this will be the legacy of our generation and other generations to come,then such sort of achievement will become meaningless in the end.In my opinion,these poor souls need a “TIME OUT” to vent out their stress in any form the prefer.

Meditation and yoga can help in clearing of the mind and persuades to think to deal with the situation.For youngsters,the the above two method can sound a bit philosophical.But instead,they can follow some daily routines,jogging and listening to music can help them to manage and regain their self.These views and suggestions are from my perspective and I’m very sorry if I’ve hurt any of you who have great ambitions in life and are working towards it.

                                       “Life is too short to STRESS oneself !! Just treasure and cherish the past,live and feel the moment….the future will make its way to you with ease 🙂

 

What we MISS…

                                                 Right from the moment we wake up from bed,till the time we doze off to sleep,people are so busy in their day to day life that they forget to stand still and look around them.People are ready to pay and learn lessons regarding “How to cope up with stress…How to be happy and content…How to take decisions in life” etc .But we are never ready to do things that are little different from our routine (ie) look at the stars in the night sky,walk in the grass barefooted and watching the sun set.

                                                 When was the last time some of us chased a butterfly on the very first sight of seeing it ? Well,nowadays we shew a butterfly rather than run behind it.When we don’t have time to see the smallest detail of all among the nature,how will we notice the nature’s grandeur.You may all be wondering what got into me that I’m so philosophical today.Well,I stood still today for the first time in my life and I fell in love with the tiniest of all nature’s creations (ie)butterflies and stars.The very sight of a colored butterfly can make a person cheerful throughout the day.

                                               Even though its stay is very limited,it flies around till its last breadth and makes its stay,a memorable one.Similarly people too,need to keep down their loads of burden once in a while and enjoy their life in which ever way they fell pleasured.The feeling of being free itself can release a person from their stress and unnecessary pressures.In this process,sometimes we may find the lost child inside of us and cherish our childhood memories.

                                                 Secondly,stars.The only thing that is ‘always there for us,looking at us and shining brightly at no matter what’ are stars.Even when we feel that the whole world is against us,just a look above us,can assure us that we still have something looking at us and rooting for us.That’s what ‘looking at stars’ made me feel.The thought that we have someone who would support us no matter what (ie)our ‘own kind of person’ can make impossibles happen.In that aspect,the ‘own kind of person’ may be a stuff borrowed from nature.The idea of having stars following us can be a little childish and immature.But it really loosens us up and makes us excited.

                                               Even the stroke of sunlight making its descent on leaves and the way it fills the whole tree thereby bringing it to life,can teach us more values than listening to a three hour lecture.I’m not against socializing but I’m highlighting the importance of patient observation that people lack today.We easily arrive at conclusions without knowing the whole scenario.But through these realizations,we can identify our ‘changeable flaws’. This is the priceless lesson taught by nature for helping ourselves.These are my views and opinions and it may vary with other people.I’m so sorry if I’ve hurt any of you.

                                          Thus,by living along with nature and loving nature,we may discover our humanity once again and live as humans,rather than social animals.

Like Shakespeare rightly said “THE EARTH HAS MUSIC FOR THOSE WHO LISTEN”…Only thing is that people have to have their ears open !! Let’s live life in the way it’s meant to 🙂