Threw me like a tissue paper

Recently i came across this phrase “you used me and threw me like a tissue paper”, during an argument between two persons. That had me thinking for a very long time. Do people really use others for their very own benefit ? If yes, then doesn’t it mean that the victim has also, at one point of time, used someone else for their own ulterior motive?

Everyone have their own set of agendas and to-do-lists to fulfill at a short term and long term basis. In order to achieve a desired outcome within a desired duration of time, people inevidently ‘use’ others to reach their goals. Sometimes the exchange between the involved parties are mutual, that they primarily begin to depend upon the cost-benefit analysis gained from the exchange.

Thus, by the way we see it, relationships turn out to be something out of a business deal, where two individuals plunder one another and extract all the necessary elements for the survival and success of another. This condition prevails in case of favourable exchange.

In case of an unfair and one-sided transaction, the victim may develop feelings of unjust and betrayal on the other partner in exchange. This leads to feelings of being used like tissue papers and thrown away after the purpose is achieved. The emotional damage that the victim may face is indescribable, since violation of trust leads to insecurity. Also the person shall start to feel like a commodity, with remorse and low self-esteem.

Hence, it is essential to have a understanding relationship, one which is not determined by the mutual exchange and cost-benefit analysis. Love people for whom they are, not for what they possess.

Spread love,
Hasta la Vista !

Towards a ‘less-criticizing’ me.

Everyone, at one point in our lives must have indulged in this habit. It is very common as well as fatal, that we often neglect it due to its ordinariness. Criticism is a very powerful weapon which can be used to tune a person towards greatness. But when it is used very frequently, it may make a person view themselves so trivial that they voluntarily disable themselves from their actual potential. As long as I can remember, I have always criticized myself for both my success and my failures, to the point that it becomes difficult to distinguish what is right and wrong.

The world is full of people to criticize our every moves and comment on our single action. So why should we bother ourselves and add burden to ourselves more. Thus, on this forthcoming new year, I wish to address this issue of mine so publicly that similar others, who suffer from same situation as me, can relate with me and get the necessary aid they require. Because when we degrade ourselves more, the self becomes more vulnerable and loses faith in itself.

Mental health matters. So I pledge to be the ‘less criticizing’ version of myself in the year to come. Hope I can carry it forward for the rest of the year.

Hasta La Vista !

Unwinding.

One day, I was posted with a question of whom I hate the most. When I was racking my brains out to give an answer, I actually found that I had no names or persons popping up in my mind. This really fascinated me. It is inevitable that people end up getting hurt and sour inside when things turn out in an unfavorable way. But when you think whether you really hate them or not, you realize that you hated the person in the situation, but not the person itself.

Thus, such a simple question like that started to unwind me. Do people really hold on to grudges or do they simply let go and move on ? Well, that may depend on the person and the situation that they were put into. So I would suggest that it is best to forgive and let go. Such that you would lead a more contented life, rather than cussing and showing hatred for another and hurting self in the process.

Wouldn’t it be better to have a happy reunion rather than cold greetings during accidental bumps in future ? It all depends on one’s temperament and willingness to climb out of past, rather than crumbling into the pits of endless misery. So, with the end of this magnanimous year, let go of grudges and embrace the new year with a clean slate.

Hasta la vista !

THAT MULTITUDE ESSENCE WITHIN A FACE

Right from the moment we wake up till the split-second we doze off to sleep, our faces are accustomed to make multiple reactions. And most of them are a direct representation of our inner state and feelings. For instance, a child may react to a bowl full of ice-cream with amusement and excitement, whereas the latter may show signs of aversion and detestation towards a small spoonful of spinach.

Thus, this in-build instinct to show-off our likes and despise is the very base of human nature, for this habit leaves a very pivotal impact on the readers of those feedback. People tend to imprint the emotions and moods of the persons they meet, hence engraving their facial reactions on the other’s guise. This distinctive trait is due to the presence of mirror neurons in our brain. These neurons are the ones that are responsible for – the smiles that we project on seeing a person smiling towards us, the yawns we make on the account of seeing someone else yawning and the tears that protrude from the corner of our eyes on seeing someone else crying.

These mirror neurons are not only limited to facial expressions but also aid in mimicking the bodily behaviour of others, but let’s just stick on with face. So when our physiological functioning has provided us with such a remarkable phenomenon, it becomes our solemn duty to utilize such capacity in a constructive manner.
It may begin as a small obligement i.e. giving out social smile or a simple nod to known people as an act of acknowledgement whenever passing by. Acknowledgement is a greatest tool that can be used to persuade an individual and to imply that they are being recognized. This practice can also enhance the person’s vibe and has the potent to change a dull, tiring day into a bright, vibrant one.

Smiles are penniless boons that can make another individual warm from inside. Also by practicing smiles to address others, our own mood gets elevated and the rest of the day becomes much better. Sometimes, smiles can also get us into troubles if they are flashed in inappropriate situation, for epics like Ramayana and Mahabharata took place because of smiles being expressed in the wrong place and wrong time. So it is essential to know when to express a friendly smile and when not to.
Alas, stay happy and cheerful – for the society and people filled in it are mere mirrors of one another.

Movie Review : The Matrix (1999)

For the past few days, I have been running movie marathons. Among the classic masterpieces, I had stumbled upon “The Matrix”, the movie I once thought to be too complex and alter-dimensional. But when I saw the movie , it was so interesting because I was able to decode a lot of latent meanings from the manifest content. That’s what provoked me to do a #moviereview series.

To begin with, this movie was directed by the Wachowski Brothers in 1999. The plot revolves around a computer programmer/hacker Neo alias Thomas Anderson and his quest for the ultimate truth “What is the Matrix ?”. In his journey Neo meets Morpheus, who enlightens him that the existing world is a computer generated dream world and that machines (cyber species) have taken control of the world, which is now a dystopia. Morpheus also adds on that Neo is the prophesied liberator to free humanity from its bondage to the malevolent AI. The movie stretches as Neo understands his meaning of existence and ascends to his role of the “Chosen One”.

In order to unveil the underlying puzzles and to gain a deeper understanding about the movie in today’s context, I have decoded the movie in my own style. Hope you enjoy it.

The movie starts with everything green, which kind of adds an element of surprise and excitement about the plot. Following this, codes appear to form the title, which gives a cue that the movie might revolve around technology and machines. The idea to introduce the protagonist with the line “Wake up Neo” was really fascinating, since the phrase can be interpreted in terms of the ‘physical wakefulness’ and the ‘awakening from ignorance’ of the person. In the scene where Neo trades a CD of simulation to another hacker named ‘Choi’ left with an irony that people – even under simulation, crave to be simulated.

Ever have that feeling where you are not sure if you are awake or dreaming?

The above quote by Neo further highlights that people are always in a state of ambiguity as of what is reel and real. The influence of mind altering drugs like Mescaline further adds fuel to the argument that individuals seek extreme means to avoid reality, even in a state of dreaming. In the next scene where Neo lands up late at work, his superior reminds him that

Employees understand they’re part of a whole.
Thus if an employee has a problem, then the company has a problem

This quote can be swapped and understood in terms of humans as employees and cyber species as the company. Thus, the reflection of AI’s influence to maintain order and control over human mind and to prevent any flaws in the perfect system is observed. This assumption also can be substantiated by the existence of ‘Agents’ to monitor changes in the Matrix. The quick shift in-between scenes creates a sense of discrepancy for Neo, causing him to differentiate between a dream and the awakened state which depicts the machines’ ability to create an illusion to fool an individual’s conscious.

The screenplay of the movie also gives sufficient hints for the viewers to identify the simulations through illusions and dialogues. For instance, in a scene where Neo meets Morpheus for the first time, the staircase is depicted in form of an optical illusion. Similarly, Morpheus uses the reference of “Alice in Wonderland” to indicate that Neo will ascend the role of Alice to slay the evil. Hints like these give way for possible assumptions from viewers’ side and affix the element of curiosity.

When asked whether Neo believes in fate, he answers that he doesn’t and quotes that he doesn’t like the idea of not being in control of his life. This strong attitude of Neo is what makes him stand apart and qualifies him as a liberator. Moving on with Morpheus’s definition of the ‘Matrix’, he brilliantly depicts the Matrix to be a “prison for the mind”. This phrase is apt to describe the existing world. People forget that the materialistic world is an illusion made by man himself and they end up chasing the inconstant. This further cages the minds of millions and drive them to run in the same path, without being deviated.

The part where Neo was offered with two pills was beautifully captured through the reflection on Morpheus’s glass. It gives a clear idea that the choice of choosing a pill completely weighed on Neo and that he had the free will to make any decision. The reflection on both glasses also can be assumed as the possibilities of Neo’s responses to the given stimuli. The scene where Neo wakes from his simulation for the first time was a bit disturbing and the revelation of human beings contained in chambers on farm fields was beyond imagination. The core concept of humans being used as batteries to power the machine world was completely inhuman.

When enlightening Neo about what is real, Morpheus asserts that ‘real is simply electrical signals interpreted by brain based on what one can see, smell and taste’. This statement senses in many ways (ie) it makes the concept of “real” more relative and makes the viewers assume that even perception, which is completely oriented on the individual can be altered. Another irony that was found in this scene is that the television present in the construct is named as “Deep image”, that which is used to show Neo of the condition of the existing world. As the name appears to be, the television acts as a source to probe into the latent world.

What really fascinates is that the discussion of the concept of “Residual self-image” is done as early as 1999. The introduction of the Promised Land “Zion” is done in the following scenes, which gives an element of hope for the protagonist and for the viewers. The mastering of various fighting skills by Neo within 10 hours of time was unbelievable and makes viewers to question the age-old saying of ‘Practice makes a man perfect’. The most admirable characteristics of Morpheus is that he never boasts about his knowledge. Even after being the leader of the resistance and captain of the ship, he never displays his supremacy. His role of mentoring is highly crucial for the transformation of Neo in the later part of the film.

When analyzing the character of Trinity, she is a strong and independent woman with a special interest towards Neo, which irks Cypher. Her loyalty towards Morpheus and her belief in the Oracle is boundless, that even makes her to risk her own life in order to save Neo. Moving on with Cypher, he portrays the dissatisfied fighter who yearns for a chance to once again rejoin the Matrix. In one of his dialogues,

It means buckle you seat belt Dorothy, because Kansas is going bye-bye

His vexation towards the real world is clearly seen. The drive that he has gained nothing out of his 9 years of sacrifice made him turn dark. This justifies his action of turning against the resistance and betraying his own people.

One fact that was observed among the resistance group was that all the names of the members were more like alias and not their real names (ie) like Switch, Apoc, Mouse, Tank etc. This creates an inquisitiveness among the viewers and a premise that the members adopted the alias name since they relinquished their real names along with their simulation avatar.

The highlighting component of the movie is the concept of “Freeing one’s mind”. The movie suggests that by freeing one’s mind, the person can reap one’s complete potential and break free of shackles. Throughout the movie, all the agents and rebel members wear glasses inside the Matrix. This can be interpreted as a sign of indicating that the Matrix is a grand illusion and the reflections in the glasses underline the fact that all people inside the Matrix are the same (ie) bonded slaves to the cyber species.
The conversation between Neo and the potential child at Oracle’s was thought provoking. For instance, the conversation

Child: Don’t try and bend the spoon, that’s impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth.
Neo: What truth?
Child: There is no spoon. Then you’ll see that it is not the spoon that bends. It is only yourself.

is highly meaning filled one. The quote conveys that in situations, people have to make themselves flexible in order to adapt and resolve concerns. This spiritual conversation coming from a child indicates the level of maturity and is highly appreciated in the movie. The phrase “Temet Nosce” (Know Thyself) is also discussed in the movie, which once again sums up the fact that knowledge about oneself redeems the person. The use of reverse psychology by Oracle on Neo was well scripted and this acted as a stimulation for Neo to become the ‘One’.

In the next scene where Morpheus is imprisoned and tortured for information, his endurance and resilience is well appreciated, because he doesn’t lose hope and give up. This adds on as a reason to admire Morpheus more. Agent Smith’s description of human beings was cruel but precise (ie) he asserts that ‘humans are not mammals since people lack the basic element of developing equilibrium with the environment. Instead they multiply and exploit all available natural resources till its annihilation’. This statement which was discussed in early 1999 perfectly recount the current scenario of scarcity existing in the world. One of the personal favorite quote in this movie is

There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path

This quote depicts Neo’s journey from being a doubtful hacker to the destined liberator. Later, Neo’s act of staying and fighting the agent also asserts that he is now a believer. The notion of bringing Neo back from dead was similar to the resurrection of Christ, and after being liberated from the grip of The Matrix, Neo was able to break the codes and bend the rules. This phenomenon was beautifully delineated by Neo’s ability to stop the bullets and see the Matrix as codes.

Thus, this screenplay is directed towards the dominance and supremacy of machines against humans, but it is applicable in any scenario where restriction prevails. My overall review is that this movie is a delight for all sci-fiction lovers and it truly a real-find.

Ps: Sorry for such a lengthy and a time-consuming review, hope you linked it. Until next time,

Hasta la vista !!

*Pinky Promises*

Wouldn’t it be just fine and great if we all kept our promises throughout our lifetime. Well, it would be a tiresome job since people make endless promises on numerous occasions. One of the recent question that has been lurking me inside out is,

Why do we make promises in life when we clearly know that we are totally incapable of respecting it ?

It seems like yesterday that I asked my dad to promise me, not to let go of me, while riding my bicycle. But then, he did leave me. Subsequently, I promised my very first friend that I’ll be there for her always, but then I’m now nowhere near her. My brother promised me that he’ll always defend me and clear my coast away from bullies, but once again then he’s not here to carry out his promise.

The beautiful thing about holding a promise is that, it gives the receiver a complete sense of trust and faith on the other. But we mortals tend to shatter that essential element of assurance so easily and we are okay with it.

Be it small or big, a promise is a promise, and it is the very core of every relationship. All individuals have idealized big goals in life. So it’ll be nice if people realize the gravity of promises in life and make it a goal to preserve promises made to their dear and near. It may seem small and easy, but it’s impact is actually quite powerful.

I’m not suggesting people to go make up for their broken promises, but it’ll be good if people cherish and treasure their current promises. Surely there will be a dramatic improvement in the social and personal relationships of individuals, for the other person starts to feel that they are being valued, and their promise is being secured. Also trust even blooms in between enemies, if the virtue of promise is safeguarded.

Ps: All of these views are my perspectives, and thus it may sound one sided. Kindly take in the good parts and let’s all transform ourselves into better beings.

All it takes is one small step. So let’s strive towards becoming the improved versions of ourselves !

*pinky promise*

Back to square one.

Life experiments can be challenging as well as threatening, in the sense that they have the potent to alter one’s course of life, beliefs and core ideologies. In that context, a year back I decided to do something that I never attempted my entire life. After 20 years of staying with my parents, I opted to leave home and test unknown terrains. I challenged myself to go beyond my comfort zone and explore the raw world awaiting in front of me.

Initially the experience was all a painted picture and sugary. But when days matured, the silver lining eventually came off and unpredictable and unfavorable moments were encountered. So during times as those, I used to wonder whether things were faulty at my end, or this is how stuff happens in adult world. But after one year of close watch, I came to the conclusion that people just don’t meet at random, but always have a purpose in each other’s lives.

A wise friend recently introduced me to the gem of all books, “Many lives, Many masters” by Dr.Brian Weiss. In this book, the author states that souls, who knew each other at the time of living, always reincarnate as a group and get involved in each other’s lives once again. The author accounts that this is because of karma and one’s life actions. Thus, the balance is always maintained alas, and implies that one cannot escape the price of sin, just through death.

Now many of you may wonder what that book has to do in this context. Well, on a closer note, the struggles that I faced and hardships that I underwent were all a part of me being liberated from my past karma. Thus all this can be attributed as life’s redemption of making my slate clean and helping me to start from square one.

To be honest, I never got the phrase “Back to square one” as a child, when playing board games. But now, this phrase is too relatable. From my little expedition, I realized that life gives people numerous chances and options to wipe their slates clean and start afresh. But it is all in the hands of the same people to either take it or leave it.

By taking these chances, one either accept their karma and wash off their sins. Or the person can react imprudently and further add on to their deeds by leaving out their chances. So it took one full year to realize this universal truth, along with some hard hitting mishaps on the way.

So peeps, it is better to embrace all the new people and experiences that life has to offer and accept them whole heartedly, rather than to complain about it. Because certain occasions are bound to happen even if one divert all their strength to avert it. More importantly, life offers a fresh beginning only for deserving some. So in such case, it is better to strike a deal with life and aim towards progress.

“Can’t I just turn back the clock, forgive my sins. I just wanna roll my sleeves up, and start again”…goes the song by OneRepublic. So wouldn’t it be better to come back to square one and begin new again !

Ps: I know it’s been very long since my last post. But with this experiment teaching me values of life, I’m back with a bang from my break. All these are my perspectives and it may differ from person to person, so I don’t mean any disrespect to any of you with different viewpoints.

Until next time !

The WAIT

“Desperate eyes

Heart with a flickering sense of hope

Dubious mind

Threatened ego”

All these are some of the characteristics that each and everyone of us must have experienced in one of the phases of life.

Life is not always fair, it maintains a fine balance in everything. This also includes one’s ego, attitude, esteem, pride and the whole mortal idea of who the person is. Thus, when people get head-strong, life tend to push them down from the highest alp and bring them back to reality. Or worse, when people imagine themselves to be indestructible, life tends to crush them down to get them back to senses.

This is the way life operates. The period of resuscitation is the hardest of all. The person in this stage, is similar to that of a phoenix. They have to accept all the shame, humiliation, embarrassment, disgrace in order to rise up again and become eminent. This duration of time, the time to accept and seek for the right opportunity is what I call as the “Wait”. This “Wait” is actually more dreadful and unbearable than it sounds, as it has the potent of casting oneself into a new being.

Apart from superficial world, one’s inner self is enough to do the damages. Human mind is a very powerful, complex and a tricky place to be. It makes people to believe completely in an instance, and become vacillating by the next stance. Likewise unresolved fears, which gets more aggravated at the event of a “Wait”, also contribute greatly to the damages orchestrated in collaboration with the mind.

Thus an unstable fearful mind makes everything go loony and the person loses sight of the track back to reality. This is the time when people have to hold on to themselves and use hope as an anchor back to reality and happiness. Now finding these anchors can be quite challenging, but once they are in position, one can boom back with a whoop into the present.

Once after being back, the person must not forget the hardships and the pain endured during the “Wait”, and must start to live a more meaningful life. This also includes the unannounced edict that the victim should always be considerate and thoughtful of others’ situation and act accordingly. This assertion is undertaken since the victim is now capable of being in other person’s shoe and knows the agony of the “Wait”.

PS : All these views are my perspectives of how a person fall and gets back to one’s feet. I’m truly sorry if I have differed from your opinion and hurt any one of you. Feel free to correct me and enlighten me.

Lastly,

Time can heal a broken heart, But it can also break a “Waiting” heart !

Until next time, Hasta la vista !

Little “Self-Love” on this Valentine’s

After being stranded in the middle of the road for the hundredth time,

She shrugged off the unknown faces filled with despise glime.

Wrapping her jacket around her suspicious attire,

The ‘four hundred dollar’ in her palm pulled her close to the nearby diner.

Spending the whole pay on her valentine meal,

Her eyes sparkled with content for the time with herself, like it’s a big deal.

After days and nights of working for others,

She finally felt at ease, as now there’s no need to pother.

As she walked back to her home all alone,

The joy she felt inside was beyond the entire living zone.

-Dailylife330

 

Hello Folks, finally I’m back from my 6-month long hiatus and I wanted to start off this year on the most romantic day of the month. Love is not essentially based on ‘giving to another’. It is also how a person treats oneself. “Self-Love” is something that I really wanted you guys to know about.

Always remember,

             Only when you love and treat yourself in a good way, other people will serve you with the respect you deserve !!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mind of Mine !

In the memory of a cherish relationship that got to its abrupt end without a goodbye.

Recently I was told that one can never hold on to something that is obviously falling apart.And that you or your karma,is not at all the reason for that relationship to end.Sometimes it is better to let go and be free,rather than clinging tightly to people and trying hard to keep them together.They also tell that it’s better to not take these relationship issues to the head and keep on thinking about it.But I fail in following this piece of vital advice whenever I’m in the middle of a relationship crisis.

Every relationship has its ups and downs.The ones that are strong enough always strive and survive.But those which are feeble always crumble to its oblivion.They are long forgotten along with their once treasured memories.I have always wondered how people get themselves free so easily from all that emotional attachments over some silly mishaps.It is disheartening and sad to see ‘once-best friends’,glancing at each other like strangers.

It’s human nature and tendency to commit mistakes.People involving in relationships must be definitely knowing about the other person’s situations and problems.So when a person do something wrong,they must be the one to understand from their shoes,instead of criticizing them.Even though if the person commits a grave and an unforgivable mistake,the friend must be crazy enough to forgive the other because that’s what determines their bonding and affection towards each other.

It is my tendency to think in a way that my karma takes a toll on my social and personal life.So whenever something goes wrong with my peer relationship (even though I’m not the cause for any trouble),I start to think of all the wrongs that I’ve committed and start to feel guilty.And I also believe that all relationships should end the way it started (ie) in a mutual way with a goodbye.I once didn’t have the chance to say my goodbyes to a treasured and cherished relationship.And I regret it till date.So I always take initiative and try mending relationships which are in the verge of breaking off…So that they don’t regret it one day like I do.

Call me old-fashioned,but I believe that people do not meet and get into a relationship without a reason.Again I may be wrong,but these are all my views and perspectives.I’m so sorry if I’ve hurt people who don’t agree with me.

Legends tell that people are bonded over lifetimes…It’s a sin to break those sacred bonds over meaningless things !